New Thread-Husband Moved in With OW(T2L)

[Trying2live]

Well its so funny when we all do bad it's at the same time and when we are all feeling sad its around the same time too.

So your daughter doesn't know he's moving out? My H told me, came home told the kids packed up and moved out. Came back after 3 days. Was home for 2 weeks and couldn't handle the withdrawal symptoms and went back. But the kids knew he was leaving right from the start. But oddly enough when he left the second time, the kids and I sat down and ate dinner together after mid-week church and we looked at each other and said you feel that? And well said yup, its peaceful. So although we missed him, the stress and anger of him here was worse.

I know it's going to be hard. But this could be what he needs to see that he has it good. Once my husband left I changed the locks. Sorry bud, your not coming and going as you please. Now you can book an appointment. I don't mean that in a mean way but they think that they can roll in and do what they want and we are just going to have to put our lives on hold and sit around and cry til they come to the house. No way!!!! Your H needs to now plan ahead to visit you and daughter. He needs to feel what divorce is really going to feel like. It needs to be a bit inconvenient and your the one who needs to make it this way. Its going to be super important now that you GAL. You have any classes set up? Once he moves out. Don't be overly available. Make it seem like you are getting out there and living. it will really shock their brains. Doesn't mean you have to be mean, but don't answer every call, let it go to voice mail. Plan your lunch at different times everyday so he cant catch you and wonder. Don't be home as much when he expects you to be home every evening. That's where and evening class at the gym or something new will help.

I wish you could tell your daughter. I know my daughter used to think I was negative but she'll see what the truth is. My daughter now sees and though she loves her dad she does see that he is retarded. It really would be good for you to go catch a movie or something that day he moves. He'll expect you to watch him pull away and cry.

Well about my weight it actually was an accident. I didnt mean to, but I do know lots of tricks and things to do to help lose weight if you ever need any info. Been battling weight my whole life. I've been on the thicker side my whole life this is the 1st time a size 3 but bear in mind I'm only 5ft tall. That's 5 even.

I do get on during the weekend but sometimes don't post as my 9 year old sometimes like to follow me and see what I'm doing. The kids do know I'm on the forum but don't want them to see all my frustrations. But would never drop off with out saying anything. Do any of you have face book?