I am finding that when the WAS wants to be friends, it keeps further healing from happening (unless you are already completely over them). My STBXH keeps swooping in and wanting to be Mr. Nice Guy. It keeps me trapped, it keeps me longing, it keeps me hoping and not healing. Sara, you need to do what feels right for you. Has your XH grown from this journey? No. Has he tried to prove to you how he can be a better person to you? No. He is now lost once again and is just falling back to you because it easier than doing the real work of growth. Dont let him use you that way. YOU have grown and found yourself. YOU did the work to find happiness without destroying anyone along the way. You do not need his kind of love. If he was to get his life together and then want to work on re-establishing a relationship with you, then and only then would I consider it. Personally, I do not see your XH as the kind of person to do that though. After all, he expected you to do his OW laundry at times...who would do that!!! You are so much stronger and better off now.
Bt the way, maybe I will join your Divorce Recovery group. Is it in Alton or St.Louis? (I've moved back from Columbia now. Yeah me!)
Broken Hearted ------------------ Me - 36 H - 37 S - 8 Married - 1992 ILYNILWY - August 2007 Moved Out - March 2008 OW Revieled - May 28, 2008 Filed for D - July 2, 2008
