I am not longer mad about what happened. I just really miss him and want to say I am sorry for not dealing with it the way he wanted me to and in turn disrespecting him. I do think this would make me feel bad though as he would most likely brush me off as he has done so many times in the past. I would apologize for something and he would just be like "it doesn't matter" and I hate that feeling too.
From my experience it's best not to bring it up at all. It'll just remind him of something negative. It's best to put it behind you and move past it. If he brings it up then ok but you really shouldn't.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
That's actually a huge break through for me. Of course he doesn't want to pursue me when he sees talking to me now as an impending 5 hour discussion and disection of what happened last week.
I think the last assumption might be more spot on Daisy...would you want to have a convo where he rehashed a previous fight? My xh has actually told me to drop certian things because it's just rubbing it in his face. A constant reminder is not only unfair its unnecessary.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Ok. I think that is totally the reason he has not reached out and talked to me. He is afraid of confrontation and does not want a long, heated debate about events that may or may not have happened almost a week ago.
So now that I get it, where do I go from here?
Should I continue the go dark and wait him out? Or should I contact him first?
Yeah. I would need to figure out what to say anyways but I bet it would blow his mind if I just never brought it up again and if he did ask about it to just say something like "every couple has an off day, no biggie"
