Guess I'm staying here awhile longer

[JenInVen]

Daisy, The Dobson Letter wouldn't do any good right now.

I agree with your friend. And when you do talk to him act as if everything is fine. Don't let on that you were/are mad at him. The last thing he'll want to hear is anything negative. You want to draw him out and make him comfortable again. This is a time to show you're strong.

[daisy282]

But what if he doesn't contact me?

It's been 5 days.

[JenInVen]

Ahhh Daisy he will. Maybe it is a bit childish but it works 95% of the time. He probably thinks you're pi$$ed and that's why I said not to act angry when he does call...you must show him you can let it go.

[daisy282]

I guess. I have pretty much lost hope. Him not calling is saying "I do not care" and "I do not miss you" and "I am fine without you"

None of which feel very good.

I just think about how we did not speak when we first separated and then when we had our first session he said that he thought I was doing fine without him.

I don't want him thinking I am fine without him because I'm not! It's like "Oh she's fine, guess I can move on now"

Grrr!

[daisy282]

Found a townhouse I really want. Too bad I can't afford it!

[JenInVen]

"I do not care" and "I do not miss you" and "I am fine without you"

How do you know this? You are assuming and that's not going to get you anywhere. ASS-U-ME.

It could be "I hurt her and now she's mad" "she doesn't want to talk to me" etc.

When you make assumptions you are asking for trouble.

[daisy282]

Ok. You are right. Assumptions are not going to help.

I'm really sad and depressed right now. I just want to talk to him again. I miss him.

I just don't see how going dark is going to help right now. If he thinks I don't want to talk to him then what would motivate him to reach out to me first?

[JenInVen]

I don't know going dark never works for me...maybe in a couple of days you can send a quick text? Something like "hope you're doing well"... ?

[daisy282]

I want to really bad. I feel like I am going crazy! I don't want to pursue and therefore pressure but I just don't see how this is going to work. Especially since it has already been 5 days! Shouldn't he have reached out by now?

I kinda want to send an email.

[JenInVen]

I don't recommend an email...I think a quick text would suffice. But if you still have hurt inside over last week you shouldn't make any contact with him at all. You'll need to get into a safer place where you kinow for a fact you won't snap at him of flip out.