i used to drink alot more when I was younger but now I don't need to numb my pain....at least not yet.
I had that "confrontation" with the wife....mano a mano. Without going into too many specifics, she did admit to seeing this chap from Mexico on four occasions....whatever, the number is not important. I was very calm and in a nutshell I told her that i can not believe that she put herself in the situation and threw away 10 years of her life for a guy she has no future with (her words not mine). She seemed almost embarassed and was very repentant...she has not been "nice" to me in the last 1.5 years etc...i deserve someonne better than her.....yada yada yada.
For some reason I feel better tonight. She left with D7 knowing that the cat is out of the bag and that she effed up. She tried to come up with all kinds of excuses related to why...her sister passing away etc. I did not buy any of it....if everyone who has difficulties in their life goes out and loses it by flying to Mexico every two months, the airline industry would rebound to pre 911 days.
The guilt was palpable which is new....but bottom line is that W is not as tough as she lets on. As far as listening and validating, I did none of that....she had to do the listening and believe me there was alot to listen to.
