You came along and everything started to hum.

[Lissie]

Hi Jilly thank you!

Barb Fall is my favorite time of year. Yes I will enjoy as many activities as I can with them. Thank you for your suggestions.

Donna, you said

Your poor babe.....my son is in 8th, and he has been in the same tough spot. But he wants his dad to be happy. His dad put the hard sell on him about how the gf didn't have anything to do with it, and that he moved on, this is how it has to be, he is happy now, etc And I am letting it all lie, now. Their relationship has to be between them.

I for a long time kept up with the X's shenanigans, telling my kids that papi was not here b/c he moved closer to work (he told the kids that) so I really didn't know any better. I thought he was coming back home.

Then when I found out the truth, that he was with someone else and that he was not coming back he was just being a coward and lying.

Then I finally with as much age appropriateness as possible. Told my children the truth.

Told them what their father is doing is wrong. I let them then lead with any questions, and many did come.

I never stopped validating them and always told them that their dad loved them so very much. I let them know that we all make mistakes and we have to try to do our best.

They love him very much, and are super happy when he comes to get them, and I really do love that they love him so much. B/c I am sure that one day he will end up a lonely old man if he keeps all this crap up.

Many questions did come from them about my behavior also, and I was very candid keeping their age in mind, and keeping an open dialouge with the therapist also, on how to handle this.

I did not want my son to think that what his father was doing was ok. As long as he is happy type of crap.

My parents were very open and honest with us and instilled the value of morals on my siblings and I. I will continue that with my children.

Thank you for passing by Donna. Hot chocolate it is. That does sound yum.