Warning-- do NOT watch Cheaters if your spouse appears to be blowing you off by being "sick".

UGH!

Watching that show only convinced me that I would be a total idiot to NOT think he's seeing someone else.

I've read in the DB forums that we shouldn't care if our spouse is cheating (per se); that we should 'make ourselves the better option', work on ourselves, etc. Well, that's all well and good- EXCEPT if you are sleeping with your spouse, I think that we LBSs have every RIGHT to know if they're cheating.

OTOH-What if I am wrong? What if he really IS sick? What if he ISN'T seeing someone else and then I cut him off for what is no good reason?

Me-43
H-46
M 12 yrs 7/09
T 15
2 grown kids
bomb 7/05/07
H moved out 8/04/07
11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling
Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D
End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing