I wanted to clarify something that I think I may have miscommunicated. I don't think every man I bump into is tripping over themselves to ask me out.
I am working on myself, my own mindset and my reaction to single men and/or actions directed towards me by men. I have no control over other people and what they do. I do have control over how I choose to act.
Also I have no problem asking out men - so when I meet someone that intrigues me I think about whether I want to ask them out. I asked out the BF immediately before The X. And I sent the first email to Emailing Man when I thought he was single. If someone says no - the worst that can happen is that I feel really silly and off for a day or two and need 1-2 boxes of haagen daaz ice cream bars to get over it.
And I have reassessed my answer regarding the hypothetical from Mr. Ironman - if Mr. Ironman was single and asked me out - well I would say yes. I would have said no when he presented the question on day 2 after I met him - but after spending 6 days socializing with a group that included him. I got to know him and would say yes. But it is a mute point b/c he has a GF.
I have reassessed the men I dismissed on the Island. I would dismiss them again. Just not interested - doesn't mean I am screwed up.
I think I view dating a little differently than some may. Many people date to get to know someone. I like to date someone after I get to know them. I like to get to know people in a non-romantic pressure environment. Looking back - that is how it has always been for me.
I am no longer living in a hermit habitat. I am "putting myself out there" in activities where there is the possibility of getting to know people by virtue of engaging in those activities.
As for whether there is anyone that I would like to ask me out or I would like to ask out - no not yet. I haven't gotten to know anyone well enough to know whether I want to date them.
Life is good. I am no longer fighting The Block. I am embracing it as a filter - one that may require tweaking - but that is okay.
