Sorry for the absence- I was babysitting on Thursday and then out last night with a friend. I'm going out with Austin and her gay friend (the sperm donor one!) tonight and then have my football group tomorrow. GAL overdrive!
So, Wednesday night was good. I had a really good time, and so did Austin and her H. We met at my office. Austin picked H and her H up from reception and introduced H as Lisa's H. She said that he looked fine with that. H then came to my office while Austin showed her H her office. That's when I gave H the score. He looked pleased and said that he could practise it and then play it to me. He gave me a kiss on the cheek to thank me (cheek but quite close to the lips). Then he showed me the music and explained the tricky bits to me. I could have validated him excellent trombone skills at this point but I forgot to.
We then went over to a pub and stood together talking. H was looking at me a lot during the conversation- really gazing at me. Austin and I were laughing and joking about my office and how inappropriate it is, so we were all laughing a lot. H volunteered some stories himself. Then we walked to a restaurant. H and I talked about the football last weekend. At the restaurant more talking and laughing. H was looking at me a reasonable amount, so that was good. It was pretty coupley, which was interesting. At one point Austin asked H about his house-mate, so he knew she knew we're separated. he didn't seem to react badly to it and talked easily. I also mentioned his holiday next week and Austin asked him more about it. He was a bit cagey about it from what I could tell.
After the meal we went back to the tube station. I said I was getting off at a certain stop and Austin asked H where he was getting off. He looked a bit unsure and then said another stop. not sure if he was unsure about whether he was coming home with me, or about why Austin was asking. Anyway, I got off the tube and made my own way home. I felt pretty sad on the way back; I love hanging out with H like that, and the night was so much like when we were together. It was pretty hard. Still, it was good that he looked at me so much.
On Thursday I e-mailed him to say I'd enjoyed the evening and it was nice to see him. he replied quickly saying the same and that he was busy at work. I wrote back briefly but got nothing back from him (although i didn't invite a response- just sent banter). I probably won't see him or hear from him for the next week at least (if not longer) as he's not in his office and doesn't usually call/initiate texts these days. I'm sure I'll miss him. When I see him he tugs at my heart. I guess this is just taking so long, and I don't see him making much progress beyond the little baby steps he sometimes takes. I should start to do the compliments and initiating contact thing again; that was a better DB strategy than backing off seems to me. I think I will when he's back from his hols.
OK, that was the post on H. Coming up- CEO interactions.
On Thursday CEO called the office and told his PA that he'd eaten all the chocolates he'd bought in Switzerland (he was still at the airport). I sent him an e-mail saying "You've eaten all the chocolates?! Unbelievable". This was the subsequent exchange
CEO: It was either that or I come back in a bag. You chose Me: Are we talking body bag, or some kind of deigner bin-bag based outfit? CEO: The deathly one Me: Hmmm, tricky. I'd have gone for the designer bin bag. Sounds like you need some TLC and a lot of Lemsip CEO: Yep, fading fast...... Me: Hang in there. If anyone can survive this it's you. If I was there I'd mop your brow CEO: You'd neep a mop, too Me: Is that because it's really hot, you're really hot or I'm ill? CEO: It's death rattle fever Me: Highly contagious? CEO: Must be, I've had it three times already Me: Either it's one of the most insidious bugs ever or your immune system is weak CEO: Both Me: I'd better get myself a black hat and suit then- you're obviously not long for this worl CEO: Noooo, boo-hoo Me: It's a sad day. I'm weeping as I type [2 hours later] CEO: I just landed......alive
Yesterday was a normal day at work. We had a team meeting, but there was no flirting during it. Then we went out for lunch as a team with CEO's nephew and CEO's dad. CEO's nephew looks just like him, but is 9 years old. While we were eating, the waiter in there (CEO goes there every day) came and asked if CEO's nephew was our son. I said no, and the waiter smiled and said 'not yet'. He thought I was CEOs wife, which was a bit wierd because I've only ever been to that place 3 times.
In the afternoon CEO and I exchanged the following e-mails
CEO: You're not allowed any of the chocolates Me: I just had one. They're delicious. Very thoughtful and not too posh at all [office extremely rich girl had complained about them being too posh] CEO: Tell that to the miserable so and so Me: No way, that'd be taking my life into my hands. You're clearly trying to get rid of me CEO: No, no, never Me: I should hope not. Your waiter friend would never give you noodles again. He asked if I was your wife today. CEO: So he still lives in hope..... Me: Assuming I denied it....
Nothing too earth shattering on either day, but the banter is fun.
*sigh* I really wish H would realise that watching someone speak and gazing at them on a night out is a sign of LOVE.
Walk on, walk on, with hope in your heart. And you'll never walk alone.
Hey Lisa.. wow, the boards are quiet hey? Well, I was amazed at your 2nd post! Wow, you are a flirty girty with CEO!
Me: Hmmm, tricky. I'd have gone for the designer bin bag. Sounds like you need some TLC and a lot of Lemsip CEO: Yep, fading fast...... Me: Hang in there. If anyone can survive this it's you. If I was there I'd mop your brow CEO: You'd neep a mop, too Me: Is that because it's really hot, you're really hot or I'm ill?
..no wonder he is showing interest in you! Looks to me like you are showing interest in him??
As for your H.. I'm sorry he is going away, do you know where he's going and whether the aub is going or not? I suppose it doesnt matter either way, but it will be good for you to get a break maybe, and know that he's not there either emailing or not emailing you. You get a DB holiday!
Its very odd that H didnt mind being introduced as your H, I had that with my ex, with us being introduced as a couple, but I thought that its probably more a social convention thing, not wanting to make anyone (including me) feel awkward. Of course my ex didnt have an ow and I wonder that the boundary shouldnt be clearer, seeing as your H does! So yes, it is odd. His whole actions for the past year have been odd.
Are you ever tempted to just ask him whats going on?
Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Love that you picked up the provocative things in the e-mails- Austin and I thought we might try an experiment on him where I ambiguously pick up on things he says and see if he responds or backs off. 'You're really hot' refers to his fever, of course. TLC and brow-mopping pick up on things he asked me to do on Tuesday, so I wasn't just coming up with them out of the blue. The theory is that if he doesn't like it he'll back off and if he continues it I know he actually IS interested. You should have seen some of Austin's suggestions for responses I should send- they were filthy!
H said he wasn't going with the aubergine- just his cousins and brother, but who knows. If he was taking her I suppose at least it'd be a prolonged period of time alone together; from what I can tell they don't spend a huge amount of time together apart from at weekends. Again, who knows. A week off for me will be good; time to rethink and recharge.
I'm not sure about asking him what's going on. Everything he does says he's confused, so no doubt that'd be what he'd say to me and things would be no clearer. To be honest, I think I have to decide for myself how much longer to do this and what else I can try. I guess I could try the complimenting thing for longer and see how that works. Me backing off doesn't seem to work so there's not much point conitnuing that.
Yesterday I sent him a quick text to say he could join me and some friends for a night out if he was free (Jody suggested I try that). He declined and made a comment about the football. I'll try that again a few more times so he gets to hear about how great my GAL is a bit more.
How's your weekend going? Are you going to start a new thread?
Hey Lisa just read through your exchanges. I have to say your h is a puzzling one! I'm not sure I have a lot to comment other than I like the invite text you sent, maybe next time you could invite him to a football type event?? That seems to be his safety zone. I'm pleased he liked the music gift. Perhaps a music outing as he didn't make it to the proms. You could look up the Wigmore Hall or St John's Smiths Square - they are slightly more intimate venues rather than big old concert halls.
Just a thought but what do you reckon h would think if he knew about CEO - do you think he'd be jealous?
Inviting H to a football event would be good if I had someone who liked to go with me and could get him along. That's one of the reasons I started my football group; I'm hoping that with time it'll become something H might like to come to every now and again (and also I do like football).
H has referred to CEO twice in the past 6 months. Every now and again I'll tell him something that CEO's done. The first mention H made was in March- 'Sounds like he fancies you' and the second (June) was H saying 'That CEO guy looks old'. I guess he was a little jealous then, but not enough to do anything about it. Austin told H a story on Wednesday about how my head accidentally touched CEO's crotch a few months ago(it was an honest accident as a result of the way he was standing and things he was showing me on my computer- sure he doesn't remember it, or I hope not at least). We were all laughing about it, but I wonder if it affected H in any way. Not that you could tell if it had. He probably just thought me being pursued by someone else is what I deserve and he deserves to loose me for what he's done. The guilt/shame/inadequacy thing is so annoying.
One thing I noticed when we were out on Wednesday was that at one point H's eyes were shining- something had upset him. It might have been related to something I was telling him about my family, or the change in my behaviour, but he didn't say anything and there wasn't the opportunity to ask. Maybe he'll miss me this week and something will happen, but I somehow doubt it. He's totally perplexing- not away from me and not with me. Pppphhhttttt.
Thanks for the concert suggestions- I'll look them up tomorrow!
Austin told H a story on Wednesday about how my head accidentally touched CEO's crotch a few months ago(it was an honest accident as a result of the way he was standing and things he was showing me on my computer- sure he doesn't remember it, or I hope not at least).
This just made me snort with laughter!
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He probably just thought me being pursued by someone else is what I deserve and he deserves to loose me for what he's done. The guilt/shame/inadequacy thing is so annoying.
Glad you found it funny- I found it mortifying and screamed. CEO looked embarrassed and made a swift exit to his office, but honestly, if you will put one leg up on my desk and hold onto the back of my chair while I'm sitting in it and then show me pictures of wierd hairless rats (not sure that's what he was aiming to show me, but there you go), if someone gets scared there's not going to be a lot of places for their head to go other than in the crotch direction.
I'll try the football idea when H is back. I think I need to work on a new plan of attack so might try and do a bit of analysis of what I've tried so far and results next weekend.
Oh, do you fancy choir on Tuesday? I have a pretty busy week apart from that- out every night until Saturday so there shouldn't be too much chance to miss H. Not that there's much more to miss I guess- just the odd e-mail about football!
The theory is that if he doesn't like it he'll back off and if he continues it I know he actually IS interested. You should have seen some of Austin's suggestions for responses I should send- they were filthy!