She is extremely adept at suppressing her emotional side to concentrate on work
I am guessing she is great at suppressing emotions in all aspects of her life. Its probably how she functions in everyday life.
I also grapple with people thinking that I was 'worthy' of this divorce, that I was so horrible, so cold, so unloving that H had no other choice but to get out while he was still alive.
We both know that's not true. You and me are good peeps. Actually your W and my H are good people too, that's why we love them.