This was mostly a vent. We have recovered but every once in awhile this part of it still gets me riled. I probably will not get over that part of it, even though my wife says there was no intent on humiliation by allowing continued contact with the OM's family before I found out.
This is my second marriage, my first wife had two affairs, the last that ended the marriage. My current wife had the brief affair with the mutual friend, ended it but allowed the families to continue to be friends until I and the OM's wife discovered the affair. If it weren't for kids involved in both marriages I would not have continued. I was wishy wasy in my first marriage, trying to keep the family together...it was a military marriage and didn't want to lose my kids and only see them 30 days a year but it still didn't work! This last affair by my current wife was was over by the time I found out and she took the recovery ball and ran with it.
I posted my story on another board but didn't really use the boards for help other than help in affair proofing my marriage from further affairs. Thats why I was always reluctant to offer much help other than my opinion. Don't want to be a hypocrite.
Two stories have caught my attention of this site....hope4us who was also on the other site and hopeful4her. No offense to other stories.
