I am not angry anymore...I am now just disappointed with her choices. i am disappointed that she put herself in a position to stary. I am disappointed that even when we were recently trying to work things out, she was not able to cut ties with a guy from mexico...I am extremely disappointed that she lied to me so many times.
It just seems so weird. There has to be a huge language problem between them unless he speaks French. I dont see how a long term relationship can succeed where the common language used between a couple is neither of their native language.
The lies are what hurt the worst. They are the ultimate betrayal. I feel like getting my wife a set of knives as a gift for when our divorce is final - It will have a note on the outside that says "I found these in my back and I think they are yours".
Doorman who passes himself off as a bigshot club owner who knows some crooked people.....you see the type. My W's spanish an denglish have improved in the last couple of years....i wonder what her cellphone bills are like.
I'm just catching up on things, I'm sorry the worst has been confirmed but as I've learnt you have to go with your gut feelings, they will get distracted by the smokescreens and the lies but ultimately they never fail you.
I'm sorry man for how things have turned out, but going dark on W and moving forward with you is probably the best for now.
Hi John, I 'll be away next week but "we" (hopefully )will be checking on you. Try to deal with the bitterness, Woog is right. It will only harm you in the end. Love K
Thanks again for keeping an eye on me and your cyberhugs. I am trying to keep busy ..... spending time with D7, went out golfing yesterday (D7 was with her aunt / SIL), taped the Ryder cup matches (watched the late at night), NFL today......in spite of all that, there are moments (quiet moments) where W and all her lies come to the surface. I know things will slowly get better but as much as I am trying to stay dark, it is difficult to keep W out of my mind. I did notice yesterday that SIL would not look me in the eye....obviously she knew what was going on all along. W calls every morning to chat....not sure at this point if she is just gauging my mood after my "discovery". She knows what i know....i pretty much spelled it out for her. How a person can put herself in a position that she did and then take it to the next level.....I will never understand (especially with a person from another country). it is obvious that she has no moral fiber or that it is an MLC. I am leaning to the first option because she has had a year and a half to shake off the MLC. If we were in a court of law and I was on a jury...and presented the evidence, I would (without a doubt) lock her up and throw away the key. But in real life, I can not throw away the key yet. I am not sure that means that I am still hopeful (I am not)and the door is ajar......actually it will always be ajar....but it will take alot of pushing on her part to open it wider (I don't think her ego will ever allow her to do that). I made it clear to her that I want her to come clean....that I deserve at least that....maybe the real healing will start for me if and when she apologizes. Anyhow, W picks up D7 tonight at the apt., originally we were supposed to have a talk about the last year and a half....I seriously doubt that she will ever come clean. She can't because what she has done borders on CRAZY. Or maybe she can not becasue she thinks that if she does it will be extremely difficult for me to remain friendly with her. Sorry about the long post ... I just needed to put my thoughts on paper.
John, have you given much thought to how long you are willing to continue in the current situation? I'm not trying to push you toward something that you aren't ready for and I'm certainly not telling you to give up on things. One thing that Amy mentioned to me over in my current thread is that sometimes knowing that you've set a limit makes it easier to deal with things along the way. It's obvious in the tone of your posts that you're having a pretty hard time of things and I'm just wondering if putting limits on how long you are willing to continue down this current path would help.
I am having a pretty hard time. bear in mind that it was only last week that my worst fears were confirmed. I don't know what path you refer to. I am not in a holding pattern....
)will be checking on you.