You are doing good! I know how hard it will be...my heart beat so fast on the way to his office that day that I thought it would leap out of my mouth as soon as I opened it.
You can confront your wife, and you can let her know that you find her behavior unacceptable. And, just because you are seeing the L doesn't mean you have to file or that you are necessarily going to get the D right away. I think you can see the attorney and still give her some time to really process what's going on and make an informed decision.
You'll do fine...it sucks, but, unfortunately, there's nothing that can be done about that!!!!
You are right that one day the kids will know the truth. I have 2 small boys who think their Dad hung the moon, and that he wouldn't have left if I hadn't argued with him all the time. Right now, they need someone to blame, and I'm it. But, I also know that I'm it because I'm the one still here. I don't intend to tell them the truth unless asked, and they won't be able to ask until much later. I do take responsibility for a lot of the trouble in our M, and I'll explain that part too if ever given the opportunity.
I'll be rooting for you this week!
Amy
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!
