I am glad you had a nice time and those steaks sound really good.
Try not to think about your H, if he hates you, etc. He doesn't know what he is thinking as his world/life have changed drastically in the last year. If this woman is a gold digger then she is probably pulling his strings and wearing the pants in that relationship. Wouldn't surprise me if he is afraid of her and does everything she says.
Like I said earlier, he is not the same person he was with you and it would make you feel worse if you did see him/talk to him now because of that.
Try and live your life one day at a time, surrounding yourself with people, things to do.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19