Thanks for all your advice Trixi and CW… I did take it and wrote my wife. I basically told her I was sorry for my part in us growing apart and that in hindsight I wished I had handled things differently. Also that if she found a time in her life she wanted to try again, I would be willing too. There were 2 GIANT 180’s in it….number 1 was that I would be willing to do it here (NC) or in Connecticut. A little background, I do not like CT (I don’t like the cold) and said I would never live there again although we are both originally from there. The second was that she didn’t need to respond to me about it…I just asked that she keep it in the back of her head. The reason this is a big 180 is that I have always wanted immediate validation when dealing with our problems in the past. I guess I am a typical male in that if I can’t fix something right away it must be unfixable....where as my wife is very analytical You will never know how much our conversation last night helped me. Whatever the outcome of this I needed someone to remind me to GAL and get back to working on myself. I can’t thank you enough.
John
Me 49 W 38 M 12 T 16 Sep Mar 9 2008 2 Boys 7 and 10
