For what it's worth someone else, I think JCJ, had an appointment with a DB coach who said that the younger the WAH, the more likely he is to last longer without making contact. So it's probably completely to be expected that this is taking him a bit longer than you would have liked.
I also want to call my H every day and tell him that things can change etc. This only makes us weaker in their eyes though, and reinforces the fact that they can just have us back when they want us back. I know 4 days seems like hell. If you can, try to think of it as building up credit and credibility though. I know the GAL thing and being told to work on yourself can get old when you're feeling this low even though of course it's important. I'm right there with you. So if you can at least think of this time as making progress in your sitch, it might help a little bit. Think about it, if you WERE to reach out to your H, would it help you in your end goal of reconciliation? My guess is that it would not, and it would put you back at square 1. Remember that your H is deciding not only about you but about whether he wants to be married at all. This is like my H too. So, even if you can convince them that you are the best thing out there, they don't want to feel pressured about the commitment itself. Try as much as you can to be the amazing person that you are and that will pull him back to you. Think about how you will respond when he does reach out and how calm and serene you are going to be from now on.
Hope you feel better soon,
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
