Some of this will not be familiar to those that I have not known too long.
For the past year or two - I have posted about affirmatively setting boundaries when a person's behavior made me feel uncomfortable and trusting my gut when it felt the discomfort.
When I was on point - the usually reacted badly and proved my gut right.
On the few occasions where I might have been wrong - they adjusted their behavior. Although I am not entirely convinced I was wrong b/c sometimes they change for awhile and then start reverting back to the behavior that made me uncomfortable... I think that is why it takes time to get to know someone. I am happy with my 90 day probation for R's of all types - I have seen positive results with that rule.
And there will be a minimum of 2 years before I will even entertain moving in with someone. Of course that one is not tested. But I felt rushed when I married The X. I don't want to feel pressured to move forward in an LTR until I am ready.
This GAL thing is so underrated! I feel so much more relaxed and less overwhelmed. The volunteering at the food distribution center - well that was quite a contrast to last night. Talk about facing reality. It was tough for me at first - I have led a very shelterd life. And this center is in my suburb - so this is even a relatively sheltered reality. I will continue to volunteer there at least once a month. I need to be reminded that the real world is very different from my double insulated bubble.
I will have to work tomorrow. I didn't have a very productive week last week - well that is understatement. It was an awful procrastination week and I got nothing done. I need to at least make sure I haven't dropped anything critical.
Life is good. I am very relaxed. GAL is a very good thing.
