Lyn - when I wrote that I don't believe in the institution of marriage, what I meant was the INSTITUTION - the thing you assume will always be there. Now I know that you can never take a relationship for granted but must work on it all the time. I'm divorced in part because I was on auto-pilot.
lodo,
I think you spot on; you do need to work on your M continuously. I am glad to see you take responsibility for your part. In the end, it was not your lack of being the perfect H that killed your M. You were willing to work on your M; right? It was your W having an A and Ding you that killed it. I have always said, "It took both of us to get our M to the low point it was at. It took her walking away to end it."
I will leave you with a silly quote about marriage being an institution:
"Marriage is a wonderful institution, but who wants to live in an institution?" - Groucho Marx
Take Care,
RMG
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
