How do I start

[Trixi]

((John))
that sucks- but you can do this. Re-read DB and start to GAL.
Probably as long as the boyfriend is in the picture, it will be hard to make an impact because she is in "the fog."

In the meantime, you can work on yourself. You need to find 'John' again. When the bloom starts to fade with this relationship she has in CT, you want to be a fantastic option for your W to consider. In some ways, I think some time between 'sightings' is good because then the changes made are perceived as more dramatic. (you know, like when you see a child for the first time in a year- the change is so much more noticable than if you see them day to day.)

Start rebuilding your self confidence. It's not over yet. You just need to regain your balance.