I am am in NO way an expert at this crap in fact I think I'm giving up on my own sitch but in spite of that...I have noticed that as soon as I stopped contacting H he started contacting me like crazy. It didn't happen right away...it took a couple of days. We had actually had a fight and he told me we shouldn't speak at all unless we had to talk about our D. I was at a point where I had had enough and thought...you know what...I give up! So I decided screw it...I'm going to honor his wishes. It took about 3 days but he called me at work and when I asked him what he needed he said he "forgot why he called"...whatever! Anyway the next day he called 3 times for stupid reasons...once to tell me his schedule changed at work...the next time to ask me if D was feeling better and the last to tell me not to drink and drive. Of course I screwed the whole thing up by drunk dialing him but I went right back to no contact and this time it was less than a day when he tried to start contacting. I avoided him for 2 days and by the time we talked he was pissed off and it seemed like he was trying to push my buttons to start a fight. Soooooooo...I guess what I'm saying is...enjoy GAL....try not contacting him at all....I assure you in a couple of days or maybe even a week he'll think...Uhh..WTF...she hasn't called me. Now..that doesn't mean that he will have realized his undying love for you, but it might put you on more of an even keel with him in terms of power.
The other thing to note is that my brothers came over to visit me today and they told me that the more you act like you don't want a guy around...the more they will want to be around. I asked them...why are men like that??? My oldest brother responded with "cause we're f'd up!" I didn't argue with him as I would agree. He elaborated and said that the male psyche always wants what doesn't come easy. This seemed to jive with what I've read in some books as of late.
Anyway, I'll stop rambling...keep your chin up girl! I totally relate to your frustration.
