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[glamgirl]

Hi Dawn. Go to that website I mentioned divorceasfriends.com it has some great stuff on foregiveness that is what helped me. Read it over and over and then read it some more. You have to forgive or this will NEVER work.

It's not letting them off the hook, the forgiveness is for you not for your h. YOU will feel so much better about YOU and the person you are when YOU forgive.

Don't hold back Dawn. If you h doesn't say goodbye, you just say bye h have a nice day. Change your approach. It doesn't mean pursuing it means you are being kind and loving from a distance.

Make him a cup of coffee, continue to do his laundry, keep the house clean, go all out in your m. That is what fighting for your m is. It's ok if you don't get a response. If nothing else Dawn you did it for yourself. Do you see the love inside you now. Look at how you treated your h when he has not been a loving or faithful man. Do you see it?

This is how it started for me. Do you think my h always said goodbye or showed he even cared? The answer is NO. It takes one spouse in the M to care and show love unconditionally regardless of all the hurts that the other is doing.

Kicking him to the curb, giving an ultamatum, any of those tactics won't bring him back, but showing your unconditional love might just be winning ticket.

You won't know unless you give it a try.

Oh you might just knock the pants off your h because he won't understand why you could be so nice when he is such an A**.