Yeah. I think you are right. I would kill for one right about now. In all the progress my hubby and I WERE making we still had not said it, even though there were a million times I wanted to.
I can't wait for an ILY!!! In Jen's case I think its ok right now everyonce in awhile because he actually says it to her too.
Jen just finishe watching The Secret...Wow definatly something to ponder. I do believe we can project what we want with our positive/negative thoughts. Now I am going to look for the book. Thanks!!!
Hi Jen... wow, things have returned to 'normal' between you then? Well, this wierd normal! I wonder what you can do to break the deadlock that he wont recommit to you? (but guess its still too early). Your H, being a possessive jealous scorpio type doesnt seem to react well to the thought of you out with other guys, so that angle might work on him.. on the other hand, maybe that could backfire and he would get angry and resentful, so probs best to not try and make him think you have an om friend?
What does your DB coach say... just keep doing what youre doing?
Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Ali, I guess things are "normal" again. When we were talking yesterday I mentioned Thursday night and told him about this guy who works for a Canadian law firm here and how he sometimes needs someone to do freelance trnaslations. I failed to mention he's old enough to be my Dad. I think there's a fine line between jealously and resentment with xh so I need to be careful.
The DB coach said that I shouldn't text or call him much and try not to invite him to do much...the goal is for him to invite me. Although, when I do invite he usually accepts. She said he needs to see what a D is really like.
We were supossed to go to the park today with D but he sent me a text this morning saying that he had forgotten that his friend is having a baby shower for his W today. This is a friend whom he has known for about 20 years and I've known for 10. I'd like it if we could go too but I think he might find it uncomfortable.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
So asking to go to the shower wasn't a good idea..backslide in asking.
He's not comfortable enough with me around other people we know. I can't blame him after my couple of blow ups recently. Ok so if I were to set a goal for this it would be that "xh feels comfortable enough to ask me to join him somewhere around friends." Might take a while
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Sorry it didn't work out Jen. At least now you know. There will be other events down the line. You just gotta be patient and hang in there. Keep it up lady! You're doing great!
