Goal 3 is probably a bit lofty, especially since he is not even talking to me at the moment! I will stash that one away for when we are a little further along.
It really seems to me that my hubbys biggest hang up is the amount of arguments we have. The other issues (common interests, time with friends, family drama, etc) could all be solved if we could just learn how to work out our problems without them turning into shouting matches (meaning me shouting, him shutting down) However I see that as a problem that I do not have a ton of control over. I cannot learn to fight fair for both of us. It is something we both need to commit to.
So I guess goal 3 would be more like:
Hubby starts to bring up future talk, includes me in his future plans, even if only in a vague way.
I don't know. Even that seems pretty far down the rain. A week ago we were on our way to the beach and everything felt right. Now I don't know anymore. If things had continued going upward I might have thought I was closer to reaching this goal but I still do not see this happening in a matter of weeks. I can only hope that right now we start talking again.
