We're never getting back together-How do you cope?

[MsMelancoly]

Hi Onedge, I totally understand. It is so difficult with a depressed spouse because you really want to fix things & make them better and make your spouse happy. Funny thing is they have to find their own happiness too. I'm not relgious - but I do believe in FAte. Maybe this is a road she has to go down to turn her own life around. Just remember with a depressed spouse, YOU are the source of their unhappiness - until they see otherwise. That's why detaching & reading those detaching threads is so helpful to me.

Strange - but last week my H & I had our 1st R talk since November. Since then, he admitted that he was trying to be as busy as possible so he didn't think about our M.

I've been thinking in general, this applies to my own sitch, yours, friendship in general & to a friendship my H has with his best male friend. Question is: When are you being a friend to someone and when are you being taken advantage of?