I am not sure that I am completely detached as I still have a lot of anxiety over the next few weeks, and what will happen. However, I do feel like I have a better understanding of H's "patterns". Honestly in his case it is like "believe the opposite of what he says", and "suggest something and he will do the opposite." Seriously, I suggested stopping the sessions and he wanted to increase the frequency. I offered him my budget to go on a guy's trip that he'd mentioned and he said he'd changed his mind and had no interest in traveling. He said we had less contact, and he started contacting me more. He said he had no more anger toward me and he lashed out for 50 minutes.
Jody has suggested me saying that I understand where he is coming from in terms of not wanting to feel married, and that is has given me a lot to think about. If I can get up the courage I may even say that I am not sure I really want to work on the marriage anymore since I completely get where he is coming from. This is very risky though, as there's no guarantee that he will flip and say he wants to work on it. Still mulling this over...
Hope you're doing well today!
ITH
Last edited by istherehope; 09/20/0804:03 PM.
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
