Lyn, I haven't been in your sitch, but maybe C is a good idea? Yeah, I think you're right that your H needs to take responsibility for his actions and express some remorse, but it also sounds like you still have anger and haven't forgiven him so I think that with both of these occurring it would make R very difficult to work out. Maybe you could at least do IC to work on your stuff, and do you think your H would agree to MC or Retroville (didn't spell that right) but a lot of people around here find that helpful I know? Karen
