JoJo, I cannot believe how your story sounds like mine. How your thoughts are my thoughts.
I, too, am looking to do something different. My his still at home which can be very difficult also. He cannot afford to move out and is very frustrated by it.
I am also very patient, kind, available and I know it comes across as needy. I have been making changes and GAL, but I still find myself walking on eggshells and having h always in the back of my mind.