I had an interesting conversation for about an hour and a half yesteday with a mutual couple friend of ours from years back.
They used to be our best friends... she had an affair...prior to kids..they worked it out and have been happily married for close to the same amount of time we have been married.
Hubby keeps in contact with them and they are aware of our situation. The last they knew he was home... they didnt realize he left again, didnt go on our trip with us, came home and left yet again.
Hubby has talked with them in great lengths..said he loves me..but is fearful things will be good and fall back into a bad rut in a year or two and he will be too old by then.
He has said grass with OW is not greener on the other side....(but he goes back).
Being that the OW knew us so well, our friends said she plays on all the things she knows he is insecure about to keep him.
They gave me some opposite advice from what I am reading here..in terms of being told to not talk to him.
They think he needs to hear how much I love him and have faith we can work through this....
So.. I am confused..its all a matter of opinion?
I did say to hubby the other day in my many texts that I loved him ..his affair made me feel like garbage.... he texted back that I was a wonderful woman and any guy would love to have me..i deserved better than him.
So, yes he knows how I feel. I dont think OW is the woman of his dreams...or is she. I think he is also filled with guilt and that is a factor ....
I am crushed..he took her to a Journey concert last night... got a message from a friend they were there and very drunk...makes me ill..she doesnt even know the words to Journey songs... she is too young.
OW will get drunk all the time with him... to me that is a false sense of reality..not having to deal with life if you are always drinking...but maybe it is just simple fun.
Hubby is supposed to be here within the next hour to pick up the kids for soccer... hope he is not late... that will devistate the kids.
Yesterday was our 6 month from when he left... it was an icky day..glad its over...
