hey hope, Thanks for reply. Im sorry youre having a tough evening. Im at work tonight. As soon as i get a free moment Im jumping on this thread and reading the others - so addicting, but so needed. OK, so your H still lives under same roof? I just cant imagine. Treat them as houseguests, huh?. My H left the day after he dropped the bomb and he's not stayed at the house since except for coming up with some excuse to stay there with the kids every once in awhile when Im working. As a matter of fact he is there tonight with them. He is such a stranger to me. We see each other so little since he left and when I do I feel so awkward. I actually feel almost violated that he has the nerve to decide to stay at the home he left and isnt even helping to pay for anymore (except $600/mo "child support" based on preliminary calculations by atty).S14 is upset they couldnt go to his dad''s house tonight to spend time with just dad - not OW - he CANT STAND her. Asked if I thought he had good excuse to stay at our house ( he said because he needs to pack some of his NASCAR collectibles). S14 feels like dad is hiding something - interesting. Im sorry you are lonely away from your family. Your Ds sound loving and supportive of you as well as your sister. My biggest family support is my aunt and grandmother. My parents are deaf and although Im fluent in sign language it is still challenging to communicate my feelings- they feel D is the only way because he is an "adulturer". Aunt and grandmother see both sides better. I have no brothers or sisters, so I feel lonely in that respect. But Im glad you went out tonight. I went and saw that movie last weekend by myself when H had kids, then went shopping for MYSELF (eventhough I didnt really have the money, but oh well) Sound like you didnt care for movie? And we would have to pick THAT one! I liked it OK. Loved how Meg's character GAL - sort of left me feeling empowered. Joined a gym and scheduled myself with a personal trainer for strenth training and scheduled my first kickboxing class. Made sure to write them clearly on the calendar, knowing H will be there tonight. He called me here at work tonight. Wanted to know what Ill be doing for twins birthday next weekend ( he will be at his high school reuinion the whole time). Spoke about S11 baseball team (H is coach) and the OW's crazy H still harrassing them. H forwarded me 2 emails from him and wanted to know what I thought. My real thought was "you guys deserve it!", but really, I told him that behavior is uncalled for - its not helping either side - and it is having a negative effect on the kids as he is using them as a weapon. I have not once been vindictive toward H or OW, so I wont support her H being vindictive. Im better than that. But I worry that I may look accepting of my H and OW R. OK so Ill be up all night, everyone is probably sleeping ,but Ill check back in case. Going to find some success story threads. I need a boost.Tommorrow is a new day and another chance. (((((hugs)))))
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me 36 H 38 S14, S11, D11 married 16yr Oct 17 IDLYA 6-18 H moved out 6-19 H confessed EA(now also PA) and asked for D 7-4 H currently consulting atty - Im anxiously waiting to be "served"
