Tuesday. . .it's on the to do list! It's the first day I can call around to get something set up. Hopefully for next week, towards the end but most likely it will have to wait until the week after. I guess I should have called around yesterday or today but I was feeling too up in the air to do anything super constructive.
But this is good. It will give me time and space to think and boil things down in my own mind so I can better articulate things to my new counselor.
6 is good. Try to find a T that doesn't dwell upon your past/childhood too much because that will cut into the time you want to use for the here and now. I think a Cognative Behavioral T might be good.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Good to know. We get 6 paid for because my hubby is in the military and there is a program for this kind of thing. But after the 6 you have to fit the bill which is why we both decided to end our MC after the 6th session (Tuesday) because we did not feel like we were accomplishing anything since we (meaning he) is not fully commited to making this work. So we told our MC and he agreed so that is why we are doing IC to figure out what we want and to work on our behaviors alone to see if we can pull things back together to the point where we could resume MC and make progress.
But as I said before I was not going to make his appointments before. We tag-teamed our MC, as far as calling to set things up but this is his deal. If he wants to go, which he said he did, then he is going to have to make his own appointments. So when I do talk to him again. . .hopefully soonish. . .I will mention making my appointment but will not bug him to make his. He has to want it. He has to want this whole thing. Or else it is never going to work and any changes, big or small, will not be lasting ones. I can't push him around on this. It's far too important.
