Determined, Welcome to DB, I am truly sorry that you have found yourself here; but kudos for finding the courage to do "this." Have you read DB/DR yet? If not, I highly recommend reading one of the two, or both. GAL in your case could be used as a 180; it's doing the exact opposite of what your H would expect...going out after work, having a family member or friends pick up the kids...do something different, and not being stuck in a "cheese less tunnel"
I read in your posts in newcomers, your H is bipolar, are his medications under control? It must be difficult for you going through this year after year, do you have a source for support, family, friends etc.
Please take good care of yourself cdbmod
"When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but creatures of emotion"
"Anyone can give up, it's the easiest thing to do. But to hold it together when everyone would understand if you fell apart,that's true strength"
