Well it's funny how you state that cause I feel exactly the same way about my W. She is living in her little apt. going to work and going to school full time, it makes me feel like she doesn't have time for me, I wish we could talk just a few min a week. I continue to stand a pray a lot. Also I try to take advantage of any opportunities for baby steps. Today just really had me feeling down, I just miss her so much.
If I knew 100% she was I wouldn't confront her or her parents, do things like this eventually come out even if you remained silent?
I could not hide what was going on any longer as h became like a madman just after the time we found out about the a and i felt close enough to my in laws to say something.
i also kept in close contact with my sister in law who is a lawyer and family counselor back east.
when your husband moves out and has been gone over two years, it is pretty hard to keep it a secret, esp. when we would call my in laws about twice a month and all of us would talk to them.
by the way, i thought we would never cheat on each other either due to our beliefs but my husband has been cheating for four years now.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Sooners: Inquiring minds want to know about the flowers, too.
PH: You doing okay?
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Thanks for checking on me. I am OK, just tired from having alot to do at work and at home and not getting enough sleep. So I haven't had as much time to check the BB or respond to posts.
Often, I get negative thoughts about my situation but it seems God always send things to me to remind me to stop looking at my circumstances, or stop listening to my H's negative words.
I didn't post this but:
I heard from my H on Sun night. I nearly fell off my chair when I picked up the phone and it was him! He must have heard about flooding in my town. He called and said he'd been thinking about me and wanted to know if the house flooded. Chatted for about 10 minutes or so, then he was in a big hurry to get off the phone.
My mind has been wondering (all week) why he was in a rush. BUT I am very thankful that he called. I think God did move him to call because I actually was crying to God that day, wondering if my H cared whether I was affected by the floods or whether he'd be happier if I was no longer alive (because his dilemmma surrounding our M would be gone).
Well this is all I know at the moment, I never found out for sure that she was going to be at work on Friday, so I was kind of blind on that. I went ahead and had them sent anyway on faith that she would be. I had the flower shop take them around 10:30 to 11:30. Later in the afternoon I called the flower shop back to see if they got them to her and they said another lady at her work signed for them and would give them to her when she comes in. So I am sure she did get them along with the card and one page letter I wrote. Part of the letter I let her know some of my feelings and at the end that I love her. Now I really didn't expect to hear anything from her by phone or email which I haven't yet. I kinda think that if I didn't hear anything that it would be better than hearing something bad. I felt very good about the whole thing. I think everything I did was very moving and touching. I prayed over the card and letter. There could be many reasons why I may not hear anything, there may be good reasons, but I told God that is what I am going to claim. If I do hear anything from her I will let you all know. Also I wouldn't mind if you ladies shared with me some of your related experiences. I'm just curious on how some of these things go.
as you know, my h has been gone on/off for a little over two years now. during this time, we have given him birthday cards and i have given him anniversary cards. nothing really romantic at all but they were nice. h never said anything about the cards but i do know he keeps everything.
i guess what i am trying to say is don't expect her to say anything although since you sent flowers, she may acknowledge them.
just know in your heart and thru prayer, you did what you were led to do. there is nothing wrong with that.
i would just be still for now.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
PH: Yes, I saw lots of pictures of the flooding. In and around my hometown (Joliet), there was a lot of flooding and I sent pictures to my parents who were just out there over a week ago.
I am glad your h called you, even if it was for about 10 minutes.
Keep up the praying.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
