Exactly! You guys are going to need to amp up the communication and time spent face to face. Not all at once of course but gradual shifts will get you there. As you said before you are no longer just in stage one, I think the invite on Sunday might be the push you need to get to stage 2. But just remember to not have too high of hopes as he might be busy or just not feel like going. You have to steel yourself against the rejection and not take it personally should it come your way.
If he accepts, fantastic. If not, there will be another opening down the line. So no stress either way!
The first and only time I reached out like that I did a MAJOR backslide. Begining of July for my B-day (before finding DB) I was having some people over and decided at the last minute that I should invite him. I sent him a casual text something like "Hey having some people over, if you want you are more than welcome to pass by". Well my problem was I built up MAJOR expectations.
He waited a few hrs then texted back something like "Really sorry, i was contemplating it but think I would feel awkward. Have a good time though and don't drink too much". I was pissed and started an argument with him lets say it was almost a week worth of angry calls/texts, not to mention that I was crying at my own party
Jen, I am going to another craft fair this Sunday with a friend but it is near his new apt. So I was thinking of casually saying that I will be in his area if he's not busy he might want to check it out.
You guys are right I have learned from my mistakes and am much better at biting my tongue now. And especially since I will have no expectations then I can not get upset!!!
