Need help dealing with things

[determinedinTx]

I decided today that I would not answer H text messages. That is one of the things that really makes him mad is for me to text him a lot (but it's okay for OW). Anyway, he has been gone for a week, supposedly visiting his parents out of town. I know he got back into town yesterday, however, I'm not supposed to know that. He sent me 3 different texts, then tried to yahoo me, I didn't answer him, usually I would have been just sitting on the phone waiting to hear from him. Finally he said "have it your way then". Normally, I would have been real crappy with him and sent some kind of smart-a$$ comment back, but I waited, then I thought about it, and when I wrote him back, I said "I cannot talk to you right now bcuz I do not want to say things that I don't mean. I apologized last night but I am hurting too deeply right now to talk. Give me a few days", he proceded by telling me he was on his way back into town and wanted to pick up the kids. I tried to keep my calm, but I told him that I didn't think it was a good idea right now. The kids have been through a lot and they don't need you pushing your girlfriend into their lives. He finally asked me if I was going to have the kids ready or was he going to have to bring the cops with him. I didn't answer, then he called. I told him the exact same thing. Finally I agreed to let him pick them up but I told him that I needed to know exactly where they were going to be. They deserve to see their daddy, and I am not going to put them in the middle of this. I did express my concern over him being with his girlfriend while they are there. He told me that he has more respect for his kids than that. I am hoping this wasn't just a ploy to get them over there and try to run with them. I seriously don't think he would do that, but then again, I didn't think he would leave me for someone like her either. I don't know whether to just watch and wait to see what he is going to do or do I need to do something? I am trying to do the 180 thing, but it is so hard when you are so programmed to certain responses. I was really proud of myself for ignoring his texts, but I wanted to talk to him so bad...I just wish that he would show me the same attention that he shows her, spend time with me instead of her. All of the kids know me as their stability because I am the one that is always here, I don't just decided not to come home one night because I get drunk (like he does) I come straight home from work and deal with the kids. I don't really have a life outside of them and work. I guess that is my downfall, because he depends on that in me as well. He knows that I will come straight home, which gives him the freedom to go out with his "friends" and not have to face the real responsibility of the kids or family.