Trixi and His Highness

[NikB]

I don't have a long time to post - but I second Sara's idea.

Something else to consider - a good friend of mine is in a long distance R. She goes to a lot of meetups strictly to meet friends and have people to do things with. She's also very attractive and gets a LOT of attention from men, including those who don't much care about the boyfriend and try to talk her out of that R. She has a personal "rule" that she will do activity type things (i.e. hikes) with guys, girls, whoever (even if it's just two of them), but she won't go to dinner or more "intimate" type things with guys unless it's a larger group.

I know..sounds sort of high school! .. but it works well for her.

Maybe your boundaries are different, but I think it's worth thinking through what those might be. Driving separately, paying separately, how much personal info to share.. those types of things are worth thinking through.

((Trixi))

Your H is nothing more than a friendly but distant co-worker at the moment. Would you walk up to someone you barely knew and announce you're getting a (social) life? Can you imagine how THAT would go over?? Just do it... live your life for you.