Woo Hoo!! I actually love the breakthrough that you just had ITH!! With this breakthrough you are realizing that his actions have NOTHING to do with YOU!!! And it has also helped you to see the progress that you have made.
I believe that once we actually get to this point we can finally start to do what we can to fix the M. Before that I know I personally was too overwhelmed with trying to figure out why H was acting like this, driving myself crazy about what I should have done differently, what was wrong with me and even though I am aware of ways to improve myself, I know all of his action are not MY fault.
It also helps with relieving the anger of the situation.
