Wow. I am so sorry. This must be a blow. GET AN ATTORNEY NOW!! Borrow the money from someone. You now need to get your momomy claws out and fight for your little girl. No more worries about making him mad and he won't come home. He isn't. He is such a loser. Complete and utter loser. I know that is not nice, but he is.
Fight for visitation and child support. Let him know you mean business. I wouldn't say a word anymore about anything and get that divorce going. Yuck!
I wish I could hug you. I am having a crappy day too. My H retained an attorney as well. Go read my thread if you want. Could use your help too.
I sent you my number before. I will email it to you again if you need anything. Maybe pack up that little girl and come visit us for a few days. Or maybe I will head down that way.
Hang in there.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!