New Thread-Husband Moved in With OW(T2L)

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Hi all,
JGrind you are right about this blogging, I do go back and go look at other threads for insight. It is like extra therapy we do not have to pay for. I loved what your coach said about male menopause and OW is supplier. Interesting concept and she was right these OW are making them feel strong, appreciated, and heros. I also think that you need to be less willful such as taking the soda even if you dump it out later, and if he offers to do anything around house absolutely have him do it. It is something familiar for H to do and it gives him purpose.
Do not give up faith on this. My coach said to stop asking Whys, why do you want to leave, do not control. Do not call SIL since she is part of his side. I was asking if I should try to ignore him while he is still home and at work. She told me treat these last 10 days as if H is living with you as a guest that is staying at your bed and breakfast. You make them comfortable, take care of any requested needs and do not get into their stuff. You make them wonder who you are and start to change the MLC perspective of re-writing history of the marriage. Makes sense but I need to control my hurt and anger.

As for the birthday debaucle yesterday it got better later After one more argument with H about D15 progress report and me saying your leaving will have a negative impact with D and school and everything, I just got over it.
I went home and on my steps was a vase of flowers from my sister in CT (God bless her), I brought them in and on the counter was a card from D15 and $100 gift cert. to nail salon (nothing signed by H), I called D left message saying thank you and that I was going out and made plans. I took my sister's card out and left the envelope next to the flowers. H tood D to soccer practice and then went to play flag football. I went to the movies to see "the Women", which I thought was good but was about a cheating husband and women friendships. I drove around a little bit and got home 10:30. Thought for sure H would be sleeping. He was up watching TV in bedroom. Go in and he says "did you have a good time" and I said "Yes, I had a great time" and walk back out. Then the phone rang at 11 and it was D28 calling to check on me. H comes out sees I am on the phone and walks back in room. 10 minutes later H asks who was on the phone..I said D. He says ok, I come back in the room and I am humming, go into the shower and say I am going to bed. H goes in living room and stays up till about 2 am. He kept looking at me and I could see he was wondering. If he asked who sent the flowers, I would tell him, If he asked where I went I would tell him -- but since he didn't it left him wondering. It was a DB moment.
Weekend is here and D15 is going to sleepover. Dreading if H is going out and drinking or whatever. I am hanging tight.

Glad we have this board here, keeps my sanity.