Can't believe she is 3 months. Mine will be 6 months next week. Hope you have a good day!
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
God help me. The OW is pregnant. God, please why is this happening? Someone please tell me why this is happening? He wrote a letter to his parents asking them to help them buy a house for his new family. What the f*ck did I do to deserve this? What did I do? God please help me. God please.
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
omg sweetie!!! I am so sorry!!! I wish I was there to give you a hug!! I wish there was a way I could call you right now!!!
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
I can't breathe. I can't breathe. Why? We tried for years to get prego. He had a low sperm count. We miscarried once. Then we finally got pregnant. He left and went and got her pregnant within a year? God please WTF? What is this going to do to Kendall? Someday she is going to put the pieces together and know that he left our family to build a family somewhere else. That horrible woman gets to have MY H with her during her preganancy AND she had him during MINE. God please help me.
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
oh honey, more hugs, I dont know what to tell you exactly, except yes K will put these peices together some day, just as my D16 did, similar sitch years ago. anyways, she has no relationship with him by her choosing. she hates me actually, and doesnt even say he is her father. thats a long ways out for you, but he will get his for this I promise.
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
I have never written to you before but have kept up with your story and have watched you grow.
Fig is right that this is not about you, however, It does impact your life and Kendall's. Now you have some answers as to why he treats you the way he does and why she has so much control over him.
You need to let go of this man. He is in no way good enough for you or for Kendall. Get yourself an appt with an attorney fast. Find someone you are comfortable with if you dont have someone already. I too live in California and you need to have a legal order from the Court for child support to prevent the OW from doing the same and getting at whatever little money he has first. Garnish his wages. I doubt seriously he will fight you in court for anything at this point. Ask your lawyer to draw up very strict visitation guidelines and again I doubt he will fight you. Maybe even ask that his visitation be supervised due to his depression and bad decision making. Seek a lawyers advise on whether or not you can stop/or reduce visitation until the court orders it. I dont mean to sound like I am rushing you, but if you take care of this now, you will be in control.
Start now and focus on getting this legally squared away with the courts. This man has done nothing but lie to you and make you feel self doubt. Can you now see that this was all about him? He was pushing off onto you what he felt about himself for doing this to you. The OW is going to use her pregnancy to make sure he spends as little time as she can with Kendall/you. He cant even be a father to Kendall but has no trouble taking care of a new baby not even born yet by asking mommy and daddy to help by he/she a house. Stop talking to your inlaws about him, make the topic off limits for you. Too bad they didnt tell him, Sorry son but we already have a granddaughter we want to take care of since you have chosen to not honor your responsibility to her.
You know what needs to be done now. He isnt coming home and I am so sorry but the OW manipulated herself into this position most likely got PG on purpose to take away the little bit of leverage you had. You do not need these people in your life right now.
Get moving and concentrate on taking care of all the legal issues so that everything is in black and white and signed by a judge. You take control now, it is about you and Kendall and no longer about him. No more nice girl. It is all business. If you let this heartache from this recent blow take over it will devastate you and not be good for Kendall. She is your priority. Everything you do from this point on is about what is best for her. Only you know what that is. He no longer does and she is not his priority. It is not about what you did wrong or why you werent good enough. Your H was a weak man with not much character who was manipulated by someone who knew what they were doing. You did nothing wrong. I know it hurts and will for along time. But use this information as your starting point to begin a new life. Dont let him and his sorry life define who you are anymore. Kendall will have a great loving mommy and she will grow up knowing that you made sure she survived and flourished. Love her, take care of you. Get mad and then let it all go. The only person who can matter for you anymore is Kendall. Please let us all know how you are doing. I am worried for you. This is alot to take in a short while. Call you doctor if you need to.
I am so sorry as well. Take some deep breathes and focus on what is important in your life right now - yourself and your daughter. Don't give this man an ounce of your energy . (((hugs)))
