I love Fall as well in fact it really is my favorite season. Wonder why that is? I can't wait to put out the pumpkins, and the mums, the Halloween decorationds and especially baking pies. I just love it all!
Take it from me it's ok to get mad, really. The trick is not to stay there for too long. Feel it and then move right along. This is very traumatic and it wouldn't be normal to not have some feelings of resentment. SHEESH!
ooooh Figgy...I wish I could say that anger did not consume me but if you read any of my MLC threads...you may have noticed that it did for a while...anyhoo...I am really not that type of person...
I do agree that I have the right to be angry and anger is just a process but I don't want to remain 'stuck' in anger.
So glad you think I am a good person....
Smooches! V
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
Bethie, I agree with not staying there too long...I feel myself sorta moving from this place...and I am calm and then I get angry again mainly because of his stupid shenanigans throughout the divorce. He was being nice and stuff now he is being difficult. Grrrrr....
This is traumatic!
Hugs, Vali
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
Hi Vali, Yes, it is normal to get feelings of resentment. I am often surprised that my resentment does not last very long. I seem to drift to nicer memories of H all the time. But today I got really angry at H for what he did, as I just cannot get him out of my mind. I was at a concert and suddenly he popped into my mind. I was furious for not being able to enjoy the music completely! - I wonder if I will ever have a day without thinking of him?
So you see, not only you get these feelings. I hope you are OK and healing some. Have a lovely week. (((HUGS)))
True, I think it is a process for all of us...eventually our feelings of anger and resentment fade---they no longer rule our thoughts...they become less and less...
Currently I am dealing with STBXH and him coming over to inspect some tile work on the floor in my home. As much as I do NOT want him in my home anymore...he did all the litigation. I am wondering if I am being unreasonable in having him there. I do not trust him though. I am not sure if it is the best idea...but I want him in and out and plan on having a friend there with me so he doesn't get any bright ideas to talk to me about the divorce. I am not going to talk about those things without my attorney present.
I can hardly wait until this is all over and I never have to speak, text, e-mail him again----for the rest of my life.
Why should you trust your H? He hasn't exactly earned it. It is probably very smart on your part to have someone else there. Besides the fact that you don't weant to have any legal discussions with him, this will also minimize him saying anything that can yank your chain.
[color:#330099]Things are getting ugly, folks...stbxh is just....well....ugh. That is all I can say really.
and you are right...he will try to yank my chain. And I will not get into any discussions regarding our divorce with him. He may try because he is wiley that way.
I don't know how smart I am...but I hope I am not completely dumb.
Aug '06: H moved out July '08: H had a kid with the OW May 12 '09: emancipation day
"Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it." -Ferris Bueller
