The depression stage......this is good, Sugar, if you want him back. This stage comes right before the "what the hell did I do, will you work on us and forgive me" stage.
WDID, it certainly seems like a depression. Thanks. As far as what I want, we'll have to see.
Originally Posted By: lost_in_space
(((S&S)))
Just ride the ride sweetie. That is all we can do (if you still want to).
HANG ON!
Not sure at this point what I want. I love him, I know I always will, but I'm not ready to put myself out there. He has some work to do before I'm ready to commit to anything again.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
A friend of mine said that maybe its more about her being offended that he would even ask
This could be a possibility, Corey. We know what Troll's done is just plain wrong, but regardless of her bad choices, she's got feelings, too. Right or wrong. Rational or immature.
Perhaps her resistance to having the tests done is her (crazy-minded) way of tormenting H, as she might feel he is doing to her by questioning the paternity of this unborn child. You and I might think "how ridiculous!" of course (to put it nicely ), but we're talking about a pretty messed up individual here. Nobody knows why she does what she does, and quite frankly, I'll bet she probably doesn't even know herself.
Or maybe it's because she knows, for a fact, that it isn't H's baby....MAYBE (I say that since no one knows for sure yet)....and she's afraid to tell him because she fears the truth will have him leaving, and she desperately wants to keep that from happening, so she will hold on for as long as she can. She's got no one else to "love" her. I suspect, and I'm sorry to say, that she will not be out of the picture for good even if it turns out this baby doesn't belong to H. I sincerely hope I'm wrong.
*Shrugs* But whatever. It is what it is, right?
How are you and the kids? Any fun plans for the weekend?
(((((Corey)))))
Last edited by GoingForward; 09/19/0805:54 PM.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
I suspect, and I'm sorry to say, that she will not be out of the picture for good even if it turns out this baby doesn't belong to H. I sincerely hope I'm wrong.
This is one thing I know for sure, if this baby is NOT H's, hes outta there. He won't raise this baby if its not his. He may not come back to me, but he will leave her in the dust.
No plans other than DS's football game. Talked to his coach earlier and they are going to start him at Running Back and let him throw a pass...he'll be SO EXCITED!!!
What do you have going?
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
So you truly believe he's with her because of the pregnancy and only that? Is that what you know for a fact and feel in your heart or is that because it's what he tells you and you want to believe him?
Not trying to be pessimistic, although I'm sure it sounds that way . Just trying to be real, I guess.
How cool for DS!!! Does he know already or is it going to be a surprise?
I've got tentative plans to go out to dinner with a friend this evening, and tomorrow, I'm going to another friend's wedding. "Yay" for them , but I'm not sure how I'm going to feel during the ceremony though. Last time I went to a wedding was shortly after the bomb - I had to play off the tears as being happy tears for the new couple. It was hard. I don't think it'll be that bad this time around though. Oh, and Sunday I have to work.
So I'll be busy, and that's what counts!
Have a nice weekend! (((((Hugs)))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
Is that what you know for a fact and feel in your heart or is that because it's what he tells you and you want to believe him?
Truthfully? A little bit of both. Primarily I know how H is about money and he is not interested in paying for anyone/anything that he is not obligated to. I know he has feelings for her, but does he love her enough to raise another man's baby with her? Not likely. Not entirely out of the realm of possibility, but I wouldn't bet the farm on it.
Originally Posted By: MichelleLT
Time will tell. One day at a time.
My thoughts exactly!
Originally Posted By: MichelleLT
Congrats to your DS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is so awesome!
[quote=GoingForward] How cool for DS!!! Does he know already or is it going to be a surprise? [quote]
THANKS!!! He knew that they had planned to have him do it on a couple of plays, but not to start and be there the whole game. So he is going to be STOKED!!! I'm so happy for him. This is just a mom speaking mind you, but he is the fastest kid on the team and one of the biggest, so this will be his chance to really show them where he should be playing. I'm excited for him. Gonna charge up the camera!
(((GF))) Nothing wrong with being real and I do appreciate the reality check. Our Hs have always seemed to similar, so having you ask me the questions you do, really helps me try and see it from the outside. Have a good time at dinner and try to have fun at the wedding. A dear friend is getting married next Saturday and I cringe at the thought of going, but I also really don't want to miss it either. Bring tissue.
Michelle, any word from DAFT?
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Yes! Actually he replied to my TM yesterday w/in like 30 minutes. Said his internet has been acting up, that he'll cut me a check soon. I thought he just had to remail it...but whatever. I got something from him, in writing for that matter! And I'm saving it! LMAO
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Seriously, I would lock that particular text if I were you. Are texts admissable in court? Lol
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
), but we're talking about a pretty messed up individual here. Nobody knows why she does what she does, and quite frankly, I'll bet she probably doesn't even know herself.
One day at a time.
. Just trying to be real, I guess.
Does he know already or is it going to be a surprise? 