Dan,

I am there...I have proof (witnesses) and still W can not have an honest conversation. Probably because she does not want to step on me but more likely because she is totally embarassed and guilt ridden.

I have a hunch your W will also not admit to anything. i don't know where that will leave you....back to square one. you and I probably both need to take the bull by the horns...let's face it even if our W's fess up....will we immediatelly feel better?