No real words of wisdom for you tonite, but just wanted to encourage you, and THANK you for all the help you give to everyone else. I really admire you, and I know you are blessing many lives by posting here.
thanks for letting us know how your doing, overall i think you are doing great. yes marriage is really hard work. i think as we get older we change a lot (at least in my case) and I think our capadability can change. i see that within myself. but we choose who we want to be with and we have to work at it.
im glad that you and your h are working at it. that makes me happy.
i am so happy for you. your a great addition to the db family.
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Just wanted to say that I am truly happy for you. You are comfortable in your decision and know what is ahead. You have accepted the challenges with grace and determination. This clearly comes through in your posts not only on your own thread, but also on mine and others.
Thank you for taking time and stopping by when you do - you are always welcome and your thoughts are always appreciated.
(((wdid)))
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
Puppy- Thank you for your words. It means a bunch coming from you because I respect you so very much as well.
TAL- Thanks. I agree. I remember Sara telling me that if you are always looking for someone that is "better" for you at the moment, you would be changing husbands like you change underwear. I don't want a new husband everytime I change. I choose my H and I work at having a good marriage.
lis- You're welcome for commenting on your sitch. I try to help others see the "other side" as foggy as it is so that at least you understand why the spouse is hurting you the way she is. Thanks for your words to me, too. If only everyone realized how much they helped me through this. If it weren't for all of the people on DB, I'm not sure I would have made it. I needed you all to help me see clearly. My Egf was not helping me.
Yenko- I'm glad I'm helping. I'd like to say, too, that the words of wisdom you have given people lately has been right on. Thanks for your wishes and encouragement.
You should be proud of yourself. You have turned your whole marriage and your whole life around. You certainly don't sound like the scared and confused woman you were when you first got here. Keep it going.
Hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
WDID you are an invaluable member to this site. The insight you give sheds a whole new light on peoples situations. Its also been a great thing for me to see the road the WAS has to take in order to be able to get back to the M. As hard as your struggle has been, you have fought for your M and even though its hard, you know its worth it and that rings through in your posts.
You give me hope. Thanks and you are so much help to so many here.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
That's funny. I'd forgotten I said that. Yes, changing husbands like changing underwear. that would be a lot of work. i wonder, in the longterm, how many would be interested in the role.
Thanks so much, Kat and Sugar. Listening to everyone's situations helps me, reminds me, encourages me. Every day.
Sara, long term husband changing........no thanks. I'll stick with the one I got, through better and worse.
My son is a lucky boy. He had his family birthday last weekend, and tomorrow he is having a "friend birthday". 4 of his closest buddies are coming over. Race Car theme. H mowed a race track in our grass in the backyard. H's idea. Also, H made a "car ramp" to race Hotwheels down the driveway, and then the boys can use their very own tape measure we got them (which they can clip to their pants) to measure how far they go. My S is so excited he has been singing in bed for the past hour. Life is good.
