Hi Tal! Very happy that the R talk went well!!! I haven't known you for long on these boards, but from the very start I've gotten a sense of great wisdom and insight from your posts! I think you've done an amazing job at DBing and getting your H back!! sounds like you guys have really narrowed down where the breakdowns were and are now ready to make sure this never happens again!
I sometimes think my H feels the same way about this now being about winning--beating the OW in the quest for his affections..or about ownership-- he's MY H-not hers...but bottom line, it's about love and loving the life we shared, both good times and bad times--but I was happy with the little things-but not adverse to changing to big things if that would have made him happier! We worked hard to get where we're at and it's a bummer not to be sharing our successes together!!!!
I've said this on my thread--but I often wonder if my H is thinking keeping with the A and the "single" life is easier than giving the M a try-then he doesn't have to deal with the crap. He has been known in his life to take the easy way out and to come back to the marriage would take much work and would require a lot of pride to be swallowed--and I'm not sure his ego could withstand that! Yet, then I see the teddy bear side of him and hope that part of him realizes the hard work is well worth the potential payout in the end!! Take Care and Keep doing what you are doing!!! It's working!!!
