i think that is great advice lodo

also

we tend to attract certain people into our lives

i know i always USED to attract the whack jobs that would propose on date #2, stalkers, freakshow guys

it was me doing that

when i realized what type of person i REALLY wanted to attract and then tailored behaviors and such for that (you know...what we put out into the universe is what we get back)

the pressure of finding a relationship
or the right job
or the right person
or the right whatever

all those pressures were distracting me from what was necessary...which was me...i was sending out those desperate needy feelings which brough in desperate needy people

the truth came to me when i realized the person i wanted to be and worked to make that happen

when i stopped placing the blame elsewhere

and
realized it came from within

now i am at a wonderful job with a wonderful man and an amazing family

my relationships with those people that are important to me improved and when crazy happened to venture in, i was able to get rid of it in record time