You have spoken for me when you said: I know that he'd love to have this talk over with and never ever have the subject come up again. I want him to see that, from my perspective, never talking about it again would be a big mistake.I need to be able to say, "this is the annaversary of such and such or something really triggered me today". Isolating and not communnicating--suffering and ruminating over deep, dark emotional stuff is a big part of what got us in trouble in the first place! We've made a lot of progress on communicting better, so I think it would be a step backward to not be able to talk about the results and aftermath of his A.
I have said so many times in my posts that I feel that I'm the one going THROUGH the pain, while my H is determined to find HIS way AROUND it. And you and I and others who've been betrayed KNOW that there's no shortcut to healing the trust issues, and until they accept that, our Ms will NOT be better.
I wish you great success in your R talk with your H tomorrow, I hope you receive your answers and that he finally sees the responsibility he has to give them to you. T2
