I for one think you're doing really well! And if Pisces sees this too (she is my DB idol), then I'd feel doubly confident!
I think it's a great idea to try contacting him on Sunday to see if he wants to meet up. Why not? Sounds like there really isn't any anger anymore, so the worst he could do is ignore you! You have to experiment to make progress I think.
Keep us posted!
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
Hearing that makes me feel so good. I get impatient that things are going so slow and I sometimes get scared about the progress. Thanks for making me smile today.
I have COMMUNICATION!!! Wooo Hoooo!!! LoL. I have my cell phone back on now but don't worry I am not even going to let him know not now anyway. I'll wait until he reaches out and then let him know.
That's great Sep! I wish I sounded as strong as you about going dark! Are you still going to invite him to that event on Sunday? Does your hubby have a pattern that he follows as far as how many days go by before he contacts you?
Thanks Daisy, I will tell you it was HARD to get to this point. I would come up with stupid things to text him in the begining and I couldn't resist. Good ones and bad ones when I was feeling low, there was many that went unanswered too.
Now that I have been pretty good with the dark thing he never goes longer than 4 days with NC. I noticed he'll come up with something misc...did I leave X book, do you have X movie. Oh and let me not answer one of his texts...lmao, "what's wrong?", "are you ignoring me?"...lol.
At one point he sent a text apologizing for being nasty (in July, the last fight we had) and I wasn't at my desk at work and I left the cell in my purse...after I didn't respond there was 5 other messages after the apology.."Hello?", "Did you get my text?", "You're ignorning me?", "I can't believe that you are letting your pride get the best of you!" LMAO...I actually laughed out loud when I finally returned!!
I'm still uncertain whether or not to push the limits on Sunday..I'll think it through and if anything send it on Sun as a "Oh by the way....I'll be in yr area today, if your not working.."
I don't think it would hurt to try. The rejection would hurt for sure but then again if he went with you think about how amazing that would be! I think you are at a place now where you can start initiating contact here and there and suggesting a casual, last minute meet up would probably be fine.
You know you are right..if I don't try to reach just a little how else will we move forward and that actually would be a 180 for me as he is usually the pursuar.
not now anyway. I'll wait until he reaches out and then let him know.