Thing is, because he lives closer, she sees him a lot more now than she sees me. She still calls me numerous times a day and I'm always the one she calls when she has her melt downs but they hang out and have fun. I wanna do that rather than the comforting, drying the tears, offering advice. We used to hang out and almost wet ourselves we'd laugh so hard. Not lately and I miss it. And, I've offered weekend getaways but she either has to work or is hanging out with worthless BF. Another icky story!!!
Jill, this is a hard thing to understand and even a harder lesson to learn. I had such resentment for so long b/c my daughters seemed to want a R with their dad. And me...on one hand I sort of wanted that for them but on the OTHER hand, I was sooooo hurt and angry that I hoped they'd damn him to hell forever! But now I see that isn't healthy. It took me a long time to feel that way but it finally came to me. And I know they're much much closer to me than they are to him but they love him...he's their dad. They have anger issues with him and probably always will but they do love him and I understand that. And actually I want them to love him...NOW. I didn't always.
Jill, K comes to you when she needs something...love, support, someone to listen to her. With her dad she has fun. Who do you honestly think she's feeling closest to? You. B/c YOU are the one who's there for her no matter what. She knows she can depend on you. And sometimes that's frustrating but it's b/c we love them that we do what we do. Where would we be if we didn't have our kids? I can't even begin to imagine...
So when she says she's hanging with dad, having fun...just remember, she is having a superficial R with her dad. I truly believe the only real R she has is with you. I know that's true of my girls, even though they love their dad. They're much more open with me and much closer to me.
I'm up, I'm sweating, my heart's pounding, I'm nervous!!! But...I'm having a great hair day!!!
I have to leave in about 45 minutes, but............. my paperwork is awesome!!! And....it's easy to read. Much easier than the stuff X submitted. And....after all is said and done, we've paid nearly the same amount (my previous figure didn't include some receipts that he had provided). Soooooooo, the judge better tell him that he still owes me the money, dammit!!!
Jill called this morning while she was waiting outside of court. Her lawyer advised her that unless her daughter was served she didn't need to appear. Jill called to tell her, but she said that they planned on serving her when she got to court. If that's the case she will have to testify.
I know we're not talking here about someone who has any scrupples. Seeing Jill's been forced to take this step because he didn't live up to his word OR a court order in the first place I guess I shouldn't be surprised. I'm having trouble understanding how someone could be so selfish that they would put their child in this position.
jilly checking up- waitin for news, you are so right B, Jill didnt even ask for this! she did no wrong as K didnt. Honestly the whackjobs that is our exs at times
well i am anxious to hear, hell, why not another anxious day!
Be Happy for this Moment, This Moment is your Life
so if their daughter was in class, how could she get served and expect to show up for a court date
so
her dad was tricky
told her she needed to show up and then if she did she would be served
what an assssshole
ugh
makes me fighting mad
and
i will be eventually taking my exes back to court for the court ordered $50,000 in child support that has yet to be paid and the $10,000 that LSS is court ordered that keeps growing every month that i have to pay for insurance
ugh
if only they were working so i could actually get it
