My H does the same thing to a degree, he is working very hard to fix the pieces of the marriage that were wrong to begin with and he is doing a great job. But when it comes to the Affair he still wants to justify that we were separated when it happened and that in his mind at the time we were through. He will tell me and the MC that he knows that is not the right way to look at it but deep in his mind he does feel that way. Although I get frustrated at times I am hoping that time will allow his fog to completely pass. We were talking the other day and I asked him how he was feeling regarding his choice to end the A and work on our M and he told me that the only regret he has was ML to me and her at the same time and because of that her M was ruined as well. Puppy, after reading your advice I am hopefully optimistic but still working on making my needs come first.
