I really admire this new resolve of yours, but let me ask you a key question:
What is it your wife is asking of you right now? Reconciliation? Wants you to date her? Wants you to move back in? Wants you to believe her affair is over and therefore wants thus-and-such from you? What?
Unless I missed it, I'm not seeing where she's asking for ANYTHING, other than the status quo (living apart, still seeing each other, friendly terms, "believe her" when she says she's not having an affair, etc.). If that's the case, I don't think you're in a position to be dictating any terms. Terms of WHAT?? The only way you'll take her back? Has she ASKED you to take her back??
I apologize if I'm missing something; I'm following a lot of sitches.
